Women (perhaps men do this too, I don’t know, since I’ve only dated women, you tell me) do NOT fall in love with men (or another woman). They fall in love with the desire of their own heart and then go about seeking out a man (or woman) to fulfill that desire. If (when) other that they select, and manage to ensnare, ceases to fulfill this desire or their desire changes then the woman moves on, seeking out a new vassal in which to satisfy their need(s).
Discuss.
Isn’t that kind of what we all set out to do? It is only when we become very open-minded and comfortable with ourselves, that we are comfortable with the differences our prospective mates have.